When I stopped to think about it, I realized something takes over you when you become a mom. Well, duh, you might say, but it's more than you think. I mean, everything Olivia does, good or bad, I think about how it is going to affect her when she gets older. Should I let her have the thing she wants because it will make her stop crying or should I take it away from her because she can't take it with her to bed and I don't want her to become a spoiled child? It goes without saying that you want to encourage your child to do creative things and read, not watch T.V., go to the park, play outside when it's nice out... but what about what you do when she cries about wanting things she shouldn't have... I feel a sense of calm take over me and I just take it away from her and not give it to her. Whereas, if I weren't her mother, I would probably "let this one slide". But you have to think about everything they do and how it will affect them as 2 year olds to 20 year olds.
Obviously this doesn't affect every parent, as you see the spoiled children and thank goodness they're not your children. But then again, I don't claim to be a perfect parent, I just see examples of "those" kids and I know I don't want to live with one. So, the whole seeing the future thing allows me to float out of my body and just be the parent. Maybe this type of aha moment is just common knowledge amongst experienced parents, but when you notice it, you notice it. Lookit me being all responsible, you think. Where did that person come from? ;-)
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